My new favorite inside joke I have with Lauren is something we call “future reminiscing.” We narrate what we’re currently doing as if we’re in the future and we can’t believe how great we had it. It started as something pretty ridiculous: we were walking around the west village one evening and I said something like “Remember when we used to live in New York and just decide to go for a walk around the west village just because we didn’t have anything else we wanted to do?”
And we do it a lot now, actually. It makes us laugh but it also gives us perspective and reminds us that we are, in fact, lucky. Not only could we be in a totally different situation that other people living in New York are facing right now (homeless, overworked, unhappy, lonely) but even more than that, there will be a point in our future where we won’t be able to do that stuff.
I hope we’ll always go for walks and not have too much stuff to do, but a future that involves children and most likely living outside New York means that we actually will be saying those things we joke about now. While they’re still inside jokes, reminding us to enjoy the moment we’re in, I’ll keep laughing.