This year could be seen as not the best one. I could talk about Papa dying, Auntie Judy being diagnosed with brain cancer, and finding out that Natalie Sun has breast cancer. I could talk about the shingles I got from stress or the part where I didn’t like my job for 4 months plus. There’s also the Jordan breaking up with his ex and flipping out at the family. This year included paying over $1000 more in rent than I’ve ever paid before and not landing two jobs that I thought I was perfect for.
Except that’s not how I see this year.
I see it as the year I moved to NY and found a pretty unexpectedly cool job where I get to run the creative department. It’s the year Lauren and I became closer and really worked on our relationship in the same city. The year she confirmed her Judaism at the Mikveh and the year I started You’re Better Than Brunch.
It’s not about changing your mind. It’s changing your mindSET. Not that people are mean and the world is out to get you. If you change your mindset and believe that people are having a tough time, and the world wants to support you, you feel differently about your daily interactions and you reframe the negativity. I love this idea of Pronoia, that the world is conspiring to hep you.
You can look at things a lot of different ways and focus on the stuff that doesn’t matter. Or you can look for the good. Just shift your mindset.
Keep Going: Derek Sivers, Fixed vs Growth Mindset