The human mind is built for easier. Whatever takes the least effort, the shortest path, the lowest barrier for access, that’s the route it will naturally take. That’s default mode. But easier is not always better. In fact, most times easy and right choices are often the opposite. The harder choice is the one that’s going to lead to more reward. The longer route is the more memorable and meaningful one and the one with the highest barrier leads to higher feelings of accomplishment and confidence.
In the Odyssey, Odysseus ties himself to the ship and pours wax in his ears so as to not hear the song of the Sirens, which is so beautiful it draws men to steer their ship into the rocks that will crash it. Whatever it takes, that song that plays to your most basic need will drive you off course.
So while the tv might be calling your name or you have the thai restaurant next door on speed dial (ok, maybe it’s more like you’ve bookmarked their page on seamless) or the couch feels so good, steer clear. Pour the metaphorical wax in your ear and avoid it for just a little while longer– it will pass. Instead, have that conversation you need to have. Call your brother. Confront the challenge at work that seems hard. Spend time with your wife. Or parents. Go to the gym. Journal. Do something that is hard by design. Get good at choosing hard.